The Genius of Wayne Dyer
GET EGO OUT OF THE WAY
I once asked Abraham Maslow, "What do you mean when you say
self-actualization?" He said, "There are just two things to remember:
One is to
learn to become independent of the good opinion of other people, and
the second is to
master the art of being detached from the fruits of your labors."
When you become the observer, you detach yourself from the
outcome. You get your ego
and everything in the material world out of the picture, and you allow
the highest part of
you to observe the circumstance. You remove all that inner turbulence,
anguish, fear, and
anxiety, and you then replace it with the calmness of a detached
observer. The minute you
sense that calmness, the solution is at hand. You're not operating from
adrenaline or fear
When you face a crisis or deadline from the perspective that
you only have so much time
and "have to hurry," you become one more person who brings stress and
It's in the taming of the ego that you find the sacred in your
life. You find greater
strength when you can stop being so focused on you and your bottom line
and start reaching
out to others.
They said of Jesus and Buddha that when they went into a
village, their very presence
raised the consciousness of those around them. They radiated a blissful
kind of peace is where you can resolve virtually any difficulty. Carl
Jung wrote a book
called Modern Man in Search of a Soul wherein he talked about four
stages that people go
through to reach maturity. The highest stage is that of the Spirit.
This is when you
finally recognize that you are not an athlete, a warrior, or a
statesman. That you are in
this world, but not of this world. You recognize that you are not a
human being having a
spiritual experience, but you are a spiritual being having a human
experience. In a sense,
this life is all very temporary. The mystery of that is what we call
When you are able to live this unconditional love you will have
achieved this final state.
It doesn't happen if you try to figure it out using logic or
look for results in the
material world. When you start taking your attention off of building
your business so you
can make more money instead put your attention on serving everyone who
comes through your
door as best you can, your energy begins to spread and more people
become attracted to
That energy becomes infectious, because it promotes more of
that love. As it does, your
bottom line becomes blacker and blacker. But your awareness is always
focused on serving.
You let the bottom line take care of itself. It has worked for me in my
profits, my sales, my bookings have just gone up and up over the years,
and I have less
and less concern with how I am doing.
So, Lighten Up. You do not have to strive to prove
anything--unless, of course, you
choose to listen to your omnipresent false self, which stipulates that
if you don't stay
busy pursuing something you are a failure.
Each and every instant of your life takes place in the present
moment. Using your
present moments to chase after future moments is an ego-based activity.
Your ego wants you
to feel incomplete so that it can control your life. Your false self
would keep you in
perpetual motion chasing after more and more until your final breath.
Your higher self does not want you to be lazy or without
purpose but to realize the
power in knowing that this moment is your entire life. When you stop
focusing on past or
future moments, you release the stress and tension that accompany the
With that release, you become more productive and peaceful than you are
when you look
behind or ahead of yourself and don't allow your mind to rest in the
still center of the
Contrary to what your ego attempts to convince you, you will
not simply vegetate, or
become an irresponsible drifter when you stop striving. What will
happen is that you will
lighten up and become engrossed in your mission. When you stop striving
and start knowing
that you are on a divine mission, and that you are not alone, you will
be guided to the
experience of arriving. That experience will introduce you to the bliss
of being in the
realm of spirit. Where there is no worry or guilt.
When you encounter a personal dilemma about what you want to
go after in your life,
turn the decision over to your sacred self; let go and listen. Your
answers will come as
you develop the internal willingness to allow your higher self to guide
you. By giving
yourself moments for appreciation, you allow yourself the freedom to
arrive rather than
strive. You choose to be free of ego demands and allow the loving
presence to be felt.
(Reprinted from Personal Excellence, April 1996)
9 Principles of Manifestation
1. Live from Your Highest Self - "I have a divine
ability to manifest and attract all that I need and desire."
2. Learn to Trust Your Divine Inner Wisdom - "I trust in
myself and in the wisdom that created me."
3. Honor Your Worthiness to Receive - "I deserve to
experience divine abundance, for I am a part of God."
4. Realize that You Are Not Separate from Your
Environment - "I am one with my surroundings, aware of the connective
energy between me
and my world."
5. Attract to Yourself What You Desire - "The Divine
creative power within me brings to me all that I want with happiness,
love, and peace."
6. Connect to Your Divinity with Unconditional Love - "I
express the energy of unconditional love to all people and all things
in my life."
7. Detach from the Outcome - "I trust in the universal
intelligence that created me to bring my desires to me in just the
right way at the perfect time."
8. Acknowledge Your Results with Gratitude and
Generosity - "I am deeply thankful for all that I've received, and I
enjoy giving to others
in the spirit of love and service."
9. Meditate to the Sound of Creation - "I meditate each
day to increase my awareness of the divine power within me. Through
meditation, I am able to realize the beauty, grace, and love that
directs my life and fulfills my deepest desires."
From: Manifest Your Destiny: The Nine
Spiritual Principles for Getting Everything You Want
by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer- Copyright 1992
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